Oh man I'm sorry to hear things haven't gone well for you Ksood.
If i may perhaps just make a few points though that may help , before you decide to throw in the towel.
You seem to have made some classic mistakes along the way. You have gone from an already unstable system under Lion , only to further cloud issues by attempting an upgrade to a brand new ( and not yet 100% vetted OS ) OS Mountain Lion Instal.
The old saying 'fools rush in' springs to mind sadly. I seriously can't believe that you would go the route you have with mission critical data on your system. Quote " and all of the issues i have had after the upgrade it recked my current video project in final cut pro x! i had worked so hard on it!! " Bummer
My suggestion would be to go back to a Lion installation and get that 100% stable first before moving to ML as it is very early days. There is a hell of alot of more people with fully stable and compatible builds under Lion than ML at this stage. Thus more chances to get you back up n running smoothly sooner I think.
Also people could use a little more info about your issues and system config in order to help you get things sorted.
I'm wondering if you had TRIM enabled for your SSD ( assuming your OS was installed on your SSD ) or not , considering all the crashes you experienced with Lion weeks or days after successful instal?
Also did you update the bios on your Z77 board?? There where several issues with the early bios' on the those boards.
Hope you can sort out your issues.
Happy to help where I can though
Cheers Kman