so, i tried many cards
DW1820A
BCM94360NG
DW1560
DW1830
all cards were a pain in some aspect, DW1830 seemed like it had hope but it didnt really fit my setup because of how wide the card is
today i finaly got BCM94360CS2 and its working like a charm, i finaly managed to get a nice 2x2 connection and aidrop transfer speeds are in the 150-200mbps range - 2GB transfer clocked at 1:40
considering i also had a netgear wifi adapter for testing purposes, i have now had to return 5 wifi cards, thank goodness thats over