My alder lake runs at 26-27 degrees at idle. 45 - 48 degrees during gaming. A Cinebench R23 all core load which I never do runs at approx 81 degrees max.
Please, "81" at what clock rate using what cooling given what ambient?
Temps are meaningless without such context.
The concern about bending was a demonstration that pressure around the CPU package can warp it, causing poor alignment of the heat spreader to the lid, and by implication possible alignment issues within the package, causing overall poorer thermal conductivity and reduced max power. I recall seeing a picture of a gap caused by flexing, and using washers to reduce stress around the socket with a claim of a very few degrees C of reduction in cooling at high power.
What it comes down to is headroom at highest clock rates.
It is meaningless that the chip has a given idle temp, and almost meaningless that it has a given load temp under ordinary operating conditions. If temp is super high under non-stressful loads, this indicates a defect in the cooler or its attachment to the CPU, but this is only significant because the chip is clocked to a certain power.
This is the true meaning of "unlocked" which is permit exceeding rated power by taking more responsibility for thermals.
What matters is hitting top overclocking rate without busting stability or hitting the thermal rev limiter.
Bending (and de-lidding) matter at highest power, because these traits can make the diff between stable and unstable kit.
But this is just because there's little headroom on thermals at highest clocking, not because any temperature within norms is better than any other.
As there's a literal causality between work rate and temps, then anything that makes CPU work harder incurs a directly proportional thermal load: Make it work harder, temps go up.
There's a fixed surface area through which heat can be conducted given a perfect coupling of the cooler to the die which limits power (clock rate). So bendgate is a concern about a reduction in this limit due to poor coupling.
From here you can see that reporting XYZ temp alone offers nothing to understanding of the system.
To be helpful, report a temp at some clock rate for some workload so we can surmise as to whether peak performance is limited by temp. From there we can wonder about cooler type, bending, paste, voltages, lids, etc.